How to become a better/good listener in 3 steps

you might have that burning sensation to say no this is wrong and I object question of the day on a scale of one to ten how horrible are you at listening to people post it in the description below I would actually love to see your answers I'm Marlon and on this channel I share with you tips and strategies in ways you can improve your life now I'm gonna be sharing with you my three tips and actually how to become a better listener or at least seem like you're a better listener now this will be covering the pre conversation during the conversation and post conversation with the pre conversation you need to make sure before this even starts that you go into this thinking hey I am going to listen to this person and this conversation I want to be focused on them when you go into a conversation thinking this you normally are a better listener because we have a lot of conversations in our life and majority of them are either a you're stating a point or be a conversation based on dominance and when I say a conversation based on dominance I mean say if you're talking to somebody and they said you know what the Sun was pink yesterday and you say umm no the Sun is always yellow and that is based on how the light reflected our eyes through some hemisphere now that is a conversation based on dominance because you want to prove that you're right when you go into a conversation based on hey I'm going to listen you are they're saying I'm willing to take this information for you I am well I didn't listen to whatever you have to say and I understand that the focal point of this is not on me it is on you that is what I would say as far as your pre conversation goes as far as the during a conversation the one thing I would definitely hit on is nonverbal communication so when I mean nonverbal communication I mean just simply nodding while they're talking letting him know that you're hearing what they're saying making eye contact so a lot of people might have problems making eye contact if you are in a situation where that person is looking at you and you look at them like oh no if you see them just looking away don't just stare at them because if you stare at them things might get a little bit awkward and that might ruin the whole situation so try to mimic what they're doing so if they're having a hard time staring at you just glance at them and then look at the ground or look somewhere else just don't try to make that situation really weird for them the other thing that I would say is a very good thing to get into habit of not interrupting that person you might have that burning sensation to say no this is wrong and I object don't don't do that don't do that without running a conversation now interrupting is a verbal sign of communication and the other is I'm putting into the nonverbals because you're not saying anything so don't interrupt that person let them finish their point and that is what I would say as far as during the conversation that if this is somebody that is let's say in management or somebody that's a higher up one thing I would give as a piece of advice is say stop them for a second when they finish making a point and say hey I find all this information very very important can you let me get something to write this down and I don't mean taking your phone now and start tapping up on your phone because the problem is doing things like on a phone or a tablet you could be perceived as just doing whatever just to make yourself look good it is actually physically show that you're doing anything because that person can't see that phone because it's facing you so what I recommend is getting a piece of paper and just write it down there and then what that will do is signal to that person I hate this person finds what I say very important or hey this person is very serious about the information giving it to them so for you that'd be a very big thing actually I'll help you out now leading back into the not interrupting that person once you're finished in their point axor questions but keep these questions very short because as I said in the post conversation you want to make sure this is focused on them now if you follow those simple steps you're pretty much golden in Aaron's situation which break down make sure you go into this conversation understanding that you're there to listen make sure you're actually nodding and showing some sort of interaction with them without saying anything and then the third one let them know if you have any questions let them finish what they're talking about and actually take notes that's the video for today guys make sure you actually rate comment and subscribe and there's a video I think that way or that way not really sure because I might have changed a layout anyways I'm Marlon I'll see you guys later

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